Your Self hatred is the Problem
After I had written my Malawi School Certificate of Education (MSCE) exams I got in a huge fight with my then best friend. We stayed over two months without talking ti each other. They say people tell you what they think/heard/know about the person you love when you have broken up. This is quite common in the context of romantic relationships. You will learn about the extent of your partner’s infidelities, for example, after things between you end. Well the same happened in that moment, a common friend of ours (my best friend and I) told her they didn’t like me “I only tolerate her because she’s your friend.” -I learnt this after we made up of-course. Now I like to tell myself that I don’t force things and true to myself I stopped talking to that person unless they talk to me. I did not confront her or anything because what would have been the point? In hindsight, what if they never said it. Anyway I digress. Fast forward 3 or 4 years later, she lost someone significan...